Hello, and welcome to Healing from Heartache.
Before we go any further, let me just say that I’m sorry you’re here. I’m sorry you’re going through the heartache, loneliness, and confusion that accompanies the loss of a love you hoped would last forever.
You see, I truly wish you weren’t going through this painful breakup or divorce. I wish your relationship was all that you ever desired, and it stood the test of time. Because nothing sucks worse than finding a love you really believed could last, and then discovering that it simply can’t.
I’ve been there big-time, I get it, and I feel your pain.
However, at the same time, I’m really glad you’re here, that you’ve found this resource. Because the truth is – and I’ve seen this in my own life and in the lives of others- that if you handle this chapter of your life the right way, you can and will turn this heartbreak into a catalyst for tremendous personal growth!
The Problem: How Most People Handle Heartache
Here’s the deal. The majority of people going through a painful breakup or divorce run as fast as they can from the reality of their feelings. It’s too painful, and they either don’t want to deal with it, they’re not prepared to deal with it, or they’ve never been shown how to deal with it.
They’ll do just about anything to avoid feeling the pain of this romantic loss. And so they retreat back into old behaviors and turn to self-destructive habits.
The Escape Plan
Whether it’s rebound relationships, alcohol, drugs, sex, or excessive spending, these misguided behaviors are simply destructive attempts to temporarily quench the pain.
I’ll go ahead and spoil the ending for you: it never works. And in all that running and avoiding, they don’t grow. They don’t learn. And by not growing, they soon find themselves in another dysfunctional and unfulfilling relationship.
Ugh. Believe me, I know this all too well from my own divorce.
The Answer: Stop, Feel, Learn, and Grow
Conversely, there’s a small number of smart people who stop, hop in front of the mirror, and really look at their life. They think, and they feel. And they give the pain a chance to teach them something.
They learn. And they grow.
A True Transformation
And when they finally re-enter the dating pool, they make very different choices. They find love, and they grow in love. Their next relationship is quite different. Why? Because they’re different.
Is it easy? No.
Is it worth it? Absolutely!
Healing From Heartache – Our Mission
Healing From Heartache is on a mission to start a national conversation about what true breakup and divorce recovery can and should look like. We seek to educate and empower women and men towards a path of true healing and recovery, and in doing so, reduce the divorce rate in our country.
You Can Do It Too, and I’ll Show You How
So Take a Deep Breath. Let’s Walk Through This Together
Recent Food For Thought
Recently, I was at one of the big malls here in San Diego. Like all malls, it’s an ocean of retail therapy. And, as I was walking through and taking it all in, I couldn’t help noticing a jewelry store with a big sign that read…. You Will Be…
When I went through a crushing breakup back in 2006, I quickly discovered I had a lot of personal work to do. And I mean A LOT. And naturally, the first thing I wanted to look at was what I was doing wrong in romantic relationships. I figured the faster I could make…
When people discover that I’m a breakup and divorce recovery coach, they start asking questions. And one of the first questions they ask is… “So, what did you learn from your own divorce?” And when I hear this question, I can’t help but to explode in laughter. Not out loud of…
Friends, when it comes to growing through a painful breakup or divorce, I’ve dedicated my life to discovering what works- and what doesn’t. I’ve been there and done that, made just about every mistake possible, and after a profound moment of clarity, I turned a painful breakup into a gateway to a bigger, better, and brighter life.